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I have three kids. The oldest is four, the middle 1.5 and the youngest is just three months old. Life is busy.
It’s a non-stop collage of messy bums, running noses, skinned knees and bumped heads. Sad, happy, angry, bored, sick – all at once, in the space of moments, everybody, all the time.
There’s no time for the lawn, paint-chipped deck, creaking closet door, or dripping tub facet. Just keeping the floor clean, kids fed, and fridge stocked is too much. It’s a crazy, beautiful, hectic time.
I can’t count the days when I’ve said, out-loud, “Why doesn’t someone take one of these kids?!?” I don’t mean take, like steal. I mean take, like a Grandpa. Take for ice-cream. Take to the zoo. Take from me, into time, and return later happier and, preferably, ready for bed.
And, of all the things I do need, like a bigger house, new car, more money, new socks, and cleaner office – one of the things I don’t need is: more advice.
Sure, I value the advice I get. But I don’t need it like I need more time. Better advice is a third-level need. First, I need more time. Then, new socks. And, after that, maybe some advice.
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I bet your job sometimes looks like my house. I bet you sometimes, probably mosttimes, wish you could hire out some of that weight.
Here’s another bet: Those few times you’ve tried to hire out that weight, it didn’t create the value you hoped. Whatever was done just didn’t implement well.
You wanted time. Thought at least you’d get socks. And, instead, got advice.
I’ve been wondering why that is? Thinking about what needs to change up front to change the result at the back. What do you think?
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Written by PJ McClure on
I see this a lot in both business and personal circumstance. The biggest trouble in many cases is that we aren’t specific enough about our need and don’t seek it with intention.
We say that we want more time, but I’m not convinced that time is actually what we are after. Maybe it’s the same relationship that a drill has with a hole. We seek the drill, but we really want the hole.
Wouldn’t we be better off seeking the thing that the time will give us? Isn’t that a more specific intention, easier to recognize when it presents itself? We don’t want socks, we want covered, comfortable feet.
If the intention is clear, we might start to see the advice as the way to what we want the time to give us.