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, written by Jeremy. Read the commentary.

I got to stay with my wife through the entire sweaty 24-hour delivery of our boy (still no name). One of my favourite parts was the rhythm of her labour.

Near the beginning of the marathon her contractions were shallow and irregular. But she quickly got used to the feel of things and was able to go to sleep for a few hours.

By noon her contractions were serious – giant waves of pressure and pain. They pounded in with barely a minute between the end of one and the start of another. But she was amazing and beautiful and strong. We even went for a walk to help distract her.

At 6:00 we ripped off to the hospital. Her contractions were at the same pace but strong and more painful. She was getting a bit panicked and wanted to know if she was progressing. Meanwhile I’m rubbing her back, fiddling in her hair, stumbling around — trying to figure out how to help her.

From six until the end her labour changed very little. Crazy strong, incessant and sometimes even doubling or tripling up before a break.

I loved the entire process. It was so … real. So whole. And I thought that the long, ever-changing journey to his birth was a brilliant metaphor for all new things in life.

Now this might sound cheesy, but this morning I thought of three things things entrepreneurs can learn from labour.

First, remember the end result and focus on the next contraction.

As in labour it’s easy to forget why you are doing what you do. It gets hard and painful and too fast. Distracted by the chaos of the moment you can panic. And the only way to live through the chaos is to remember this will end and stay focused on the next contraction. In the case of labour, living through three-minute increments makes it possible to win the psychological game of body raking contractions.

In the same way, as an entrepreneur, living through the chaotic days of a start-up, the next three weeks or three months need to be the breadth of your foresight. Otherwise the game is too big and overwhelms you.

Second, what worked one-hour ago doesn’t work now. And what works now, won’t in another three hours.

Even though the end result is unchanging, the process is dynamic. Dealing with the pain is almost a strategic game. Find something that works, use it until the marginal pain gets too high, wait for a lapse, flip to another position and immediately find a new groove. So too in the birthing of businesses.

Many entrepreneurs plough along using the strategy that worked when they got started. They forget that the game is dynamic. Be vigilant. Watch the pieces that work and beware of those that begin to fail. Quickly jump to change those areas that start to lag behind.

Finally, while you focus on the short game you need someone to see the bigger picture.

Labour is nearly inhumane. It’s overwhelming, mind numbing, and nearly endless. While awash in the monumental pain of the moment it’s devastating to look at the immensity of what lies ahead. And core to making it through is having someone that watches both the moment and the long-game: She has six more hours and needs to rest now. She hasn’t dilated; she can’t push yet. The baby’s heart rate has been falling for two hours – we need to move quickly.

As an entrepreneur you must live in the moment. But you’ll do best if you can play strategically based on the bigger picture. And because most entrepreneurs can’t play both short and long games – you gain from the perspective of someone outside the moment.

Besides my new son I also work closely with three young companies. And now that I’ve been through the delivery of my baby I can see that, for these entrepreneurs, I’m basically a labour coach. A doula for start-ups.

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